Holy Gospel of Jesus Christ according to Saint Matthew 19,3-12
Some Pharisees approached Jesus, and tested him, saying, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any cause whatever?”
He said in reply, “Have you not read that from the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female’
and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’?
So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, no human being must separate.”
They said to him, “Then why did Moses command that the man give the woman a bill of divorce and dismiss (her)?”
He said to them, “Because of the hardness of your hearts Moses allowed you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so.
I say to you, whoever divorces his wife (unless the marriage is unlawful) and marries another commits adultery.”
(His) disciples said to him, “If that is the case of a man with his wife, it is better not to marry.”
He answered, “Not all can accept (this) word, but only those to whom that is granted.
Some are incapable of marriage because they were born so; some, because they were made so by others; some, because they have renounced marriage for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. Whoever can accept this ought to accept it.”
The good in loving
1) Any motive? This is a utilitarian point of view. We often fall in this problem. We mistake love for attraction, and if you do not have your emotional affairs in order, it can lead to obsession. When you fall in this utilitarian emotional state, a person can become disposable just like things are disposable. When you seek the person only for the love and affection, they can give you, not giving anything back. Think about the person you like, the person that moves you, what does this person bring to your life? If you can reduce the person to a single sentence because what they provide for you, you are fooling yourself. Think about the other person, but yourself in their shoes, you cannot use them and throw them away. It is our duty to respect and contribute to their lives as well as yours.
2) One only being: When one loves, you complete the other person, accept your fate with the person and bring light into the relationship. It is together you build dreams and projects not apart. You complement each other because you both seek the best in each other. Not looking to change the person to fit your needs, but rather accepting the person as he or she is. This implies that you must give up something of yourself, because to earn the person´s love you must yield.
3) Hardness: If you want to have everything in life, often times leads us to forget that we must help each other walk in the road of life. Life is marked with many things, but we cannot deprive others of happiness. Love is a game of give and take and walk with the person I chose as a companion, because he or she makes you happy.
God bless you and be with you in the name of the Father, of the Son and of the Holy Spirit.
Don’t forget: Heaven is our goal!